As I have wandered through the great pathway of life, there was never a deeper problem than that of the romantic connection. Every hurdle, every mess up, every addiction was always met with the same excuse, "I'll fix it when I start dating." Only now, upon many nights of deep reflection have I figured out the true extent of how this clause forces your entire life into a freeze, and keeps you miserable.
Why do we desire love and some thoughts on the meaning of life
Philosophers have spent millennia trying to figure out the meaning of life, and I'm not the one to figure it out. Figuring out such deep questions requires deep thought and inference that only wiser men possess. I do however believe that it is really simple to find the subconscious meaning of life. If we look at all life, or all animals, or maybe mammals, we find that their purpose is to live, breathe, consume and breed. They may be a part of the greater system where their contributions are essential, but they do not realize that. All they live for is to reproduce and being better offspring upon the world. The universal goal of all life. This is also why I personally consider viruses to be living beings, but that is a question for a biologist, not a commoner like me.
This thought is, at least in my opinion, the clear reason for why we search for love. Reproduction. That's also why most females look for tall and masculine males, indicating higher than average offspring quality, and why men look for more aesthetically pleasing females. Just a quick note, it is proven that beauty is mostly symmetry and ratios of the face We could talk about the depth of how societal norms have shifted and how this system is now rigged and unfair, but that's not the point of this debate.
But then what makes men calm when hearing the voice of a woman? Is it the simple relation of the feminine voice to their mother? Or just a well thought through trick that the female body exerts on the male body to attract them? Situations like this, or like the simple touch of the female body is the most instinctive calming signal for almost every male in the animalia kingdom, show us that there could be a deeper meaning, a sort of subconscious connection between the sexes, deeper than anything we could ever conceive of in our minds.
Do we actually need love or is it all just a lie?
Even though the previous reflection talks a lot about the incredible effects of romantic and non-romantic transsexual connection on the subconcious mind, I do believe that ultimately man does possess the intellect and willpower to avoid these primal thoughts and dedicate ones life to something above themselves. Why? Because for some, it is the most human thing that they can do.
The great men that never dedicated their lives to romance have helped advance humanity. That is a simple fact. Here is a list of some wise people who have done that:
- Isaac Newton (1643–1727) — Physics
- Nikola Tesla (1856–1943) — Electricity
- Florence Nightingale (1820–1910) — Nursing
- Immanuel Kant (1724–1804) — Philosophy
- Joan of Arc (1412–1431) — Liberation
All of these people have changed the course of humanity or helped us advance as a species, instead of being focused on the simplicism of personal life and romantic connection. Their contributions likely happened because of their newfound time and mind clarity from making their life's work their true and only "partner."
The most important issue is to, at least in my opinion, never forget that using love as an excuse makes us worse people. So many waste their lives yearning and praying for their perfect partner to descend from heavens, but this does not fulfill ones life. This simply delays when a person actually dedicates themselves to their work. Since this happens after finding a partner, it inturn gives one even less time to work on personal or societal goals. Never forget that you are generally more attractive when you spend your single days being productive, not vice-versa. This I think is the ultimate nail in the coffin of any counteropinion. This is a clear, study proven fact, that most, including me, chose to ignore.
Love comes when you least expect it?
Love comes when you least expect it is my favourite brainless thought that people who have no idea about ones situation spew out of their clouded minds. It simply couldn't be further from the truth. A rational person is only ready for a deep, personal connection once they choose to, which is logically the time you "expect it." I just cannot express how upset and agitated this terrible thought makes me feel everytime I hear it, but then I might be wrong, and I enjoy being wrong.
So what is the outcome out of this? Well, I simply do not think that the current societal norm of romantic connections is built for the rational mind. It is toxic from the very start, and one is motivated to pursue it when they want it the least. The creation of various other CI/CD-like tests that we run on each other is also a very primitive move of the 21st century. I will be applying this line of thought to my life too, as I think there are a lot of better things to do in life, like see the world, invent something cool, or become good at challenging activity. Do not lose your time on yearning, learn to love yourself and the story of your life that you write every day. Now, stop listening to a mildly depressed person on this dead "world wide" web, and attempt to touch some grass.